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  • Why We (Sometimes) Wish Those We Love Might Die
    Why We (Sometimes) Wish Those We Love Might Die In the privacy of our own minds, we sometimes imagine the strangest, ghastliest things happening to those we love. We're not insane, simply up against the ...
  • Why We Had to Go to Germany
    Why We Had to Go to Germany The School of Life has opened a branch in Germany, in Berlin. Please come to visit us for a chat and a class: http://www.theschooloflife.com/berlin Film narrated ...
  • How Do You Like to Be Comforted?
    How Do You Like to Be Comforted? To make a relationship work, it's vital to try to understand how your partner wants you to behave when they are sad and down. Surprisingly, all of us want to be ...
  • How to Resist Conspiracy Theories
    How to Resist Conspiracy Theories It can be easy, in certain moods, to suspect that we can trust no one and to feel the temptation of conspiracy theories. But we'd be wiser learning the art of an ...
  • Why We May Be Angry Rather Than Sad
    Why We May Be Angry Rather Than Sad Behind many of our moods of depression lies something surprising: anger. Anger that hasn't had the chance to know and express itself frequently curdles into ...
  • How to Change Your Partner Through Humour
    How to Change Your Partner Through Humour We all want to change our partners in one way or another – but the best way to do this isn't generally through long and serious speeches. It's through ...
  • Can Exes Be Friends?
    Can Exes Be Friends? Partners who break up frequently think that the nicest thing to do is to try to remain good friends. But this nice-sounding gesture frequently brings with it ...
  • On Feeling Depressed
    On Feeling Depressed There remains a huge amount of stigma around depression, but if we look at what an average human is up against, feelings of depression are entirely normal, ...
  • Our Secret Fantasies
    Our Secret Fantasies There's a lot constantly going in the fantasy part of our minds that sounds pretty strange and at times, frankly, shocking. But coming to terms with our fantasies ...
  • How To Be Selfish
    How To Be Selfish We are used to thinking very badly of selfishness. But knowing how – at points – to put ourselves first can be the precondition for our later generosity and true ...
  • How to Complain
    How to Complain A good life will always have to involve complaining about how some people behave around us. But the act of complaining can go better or worse, depending on ...
  • The Terror of a 'No'
    The Terror of a 'No' We miss out on the finest opportunities of our lives because of an underlying terror of a very short word. We should overcome the fear. If you like our films, take a ...
  • Why Clothes Matter
    Why Clothes Matter The clothes we choose to wear constitute some of our most crucial and carefully chosen lines of autobiography. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ...
  • Why Only the Happily Single Find True Love
    Why Only the Happily Single Find True Love One of the key requirements for having a good chance of finding the right partner is not to mind too much being single. If you like our films, take a look at our ...
  • How To Choose A Partner Wisely
    How To Choose A Partner Wisely We're given very little guidance on how to choose our partners and tend to leave it to that mysterious force we know as 'instinct'. However, it truly pays to be a ...
  • Why Is Work so Boring?
    Why Is Work so Boring? Many of us find our work rather boring and when we do, we tend to blame ourselves. But there are very large-scale reasons, rooted in history and economics, ...
  • How to Enrich a Country: Free Trade or Protectionism?
    How to Enrich a Country: Free Trade or Protectionism? What is the best way to make a country rich? Should you adopt a policy of free trade? Or is protectionism and economic nationalism the better way? We explore ...
  • How to be a Friend to Yourself
    How to be a Friend to Yourself The person we may find it hardest to be kind and sympathetic to is, surprisingly, ourselves. Yet being a friend to ourselves provides the only viable basis for living ...
  • How to Overcome Shyness
    How to Overcome Shyness The secret to overcoming shyness is to remember that others are, beneath the differences, always substantially the same as we are. If you like our films, take a ...
  • How the Right Words Help Us to Feel the Right Things
    How the Right Words Help Us to Feel the Right Things Our feelings are often waiting for the right words to help us to experience them properly. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): ...
  • The Nightmare of Colleagues
    The Nightmare of Colleagues Some of what makes our working lives especially difficult are those unavoidable features of most offices: colleagues… If you like our films, take a look at our ...
  • What It's Like Inside Our Minds
    What It's Like Inside Our Minds It's remarkably hard to imagine what it might be like inside our minds. But doing so helps us to see that the real task of thinking should involve throwing a ...
  • Be the Change You Want to See
    Be the Change You Want to See We so often complain that others around us aren't changing in this way or that. But one of the best ways of encouraging them to change is to change ourselves, ...
  • Why We Think About Other People During Sex
    Why We Think About Other People During Sex The idea of thinking of someone else during sex could seem the height of disloyalty. It is – in fact – simply the height of normality. If you like our films, take a look ...
  • What our Wedding Vows should Say
    What our Wedding Vows should Say Some of the trouble of long-term relationships comes from the vows we say at the beginning. We should learn to reformulate what we say when we enter ...
  • Why it Probably Wasn’t Better Being Single
    Why it Probably Wasn’t Better Being Single We have a very unhelpful tendency – when in relationships – to idealise what it was like being single. We should learn how to bear proper witness to our single ...
  • In Defence Of 'Needy' People
    In Defence Of 'Needy' People We're used to being very down on so-called 'needy' people. But perhaps – in many situations – the problem doesn't lie so much with the apparently 'needy' ...
  • The Poignancy of Old Pornography
    The Poignancy of Old Pornography There's something especially poignant about pornography in which all the participants are long dead. We explore the history of 19th century pornography for its ...
  • Why Love Is Never As Nice As It Should Be
    Why Love Is Never As Nice As It Should Be Our relationships are often not quite as warm and perfect as they should be. That's perhaps because we're comparing them with a relationship in the past to ...
  • Why You Still Have Time To Change Career
    Why You Still Have Time To Change Career We often feel as if we might have run out of time to change career. That's because we usually have a wrong understanding of time. If you like our films, take a ...
  • The Darkest Valentine
    The Darkest Valentine Love has many very dark sides. It is best to whisper them very quietly to ourselves – and those who are ready to listen. You can download this Valentines card ...
  • Machiavelli’s Advice For Nice Guys
    Machiavelli’s Advice For Nice Guys Nice guys too often finish last; they need to read the advice of one of the wisest and most realistic thinkers in the history of philosophy: Niccolo Machiavelli.
  • How To Be Confident
    How To Be Confident The fastest route to confidence is to stop being so attached to one's dignity and seriousness; and plainly admit that one is – of course – an idiot. We all are. If you ...
  • Why Humanity Destroyed Itself
    Why Humanity Destroyed Itself The real reason we may destroy ourselves isn't really to do with politics or economics or even warfare. It has to do with our minds. If you like our films, take a look ...
  • Why Germans Can Say Things No One Else Can
    Why Germans Can Say Things No One Else Can German is a wonderfully inventive and bold language, full of gloriously long compound words for emotions and ideas that most languages struggle to allow us to ...
  • How Not to be Boring
    How Not to be Boring No one is ever boring: we just seem boring when we haven't learnt the surprisingly easy art of being honest about our vulnerabilities. If you like our films, take a ...
  • Thoreau and Civil Disobedience
    Thoreau and Civil Disobedience Henry David Thoreau not only wrote Walden; he is also responsible for a small pamphlet titled Civil Disobedience, which recommends that – when a US ...
  • Are we too Materialistic?
    Are we too Materialistic? The worry that we are too materialistic is an inevitable one in modern consumer society. The answer, surprisingly, is that there are better and worse versions of ...
  • The Problem with Over-Friendly People
    The Problem with Over-Friendly People Friendliness is a great virtue. Over-friendliness can be an unexpected problem. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): ...
  • Why Hegel knew there would be days like these
    Why Hegel knew there would be days like these The German philosopher Hegel helps us to understand that progress in societies is never linear, and that these societies may have to go through a variety of ...
  • Love and Sulking
    Love and Sulking It's deeply tempting to get into sulks in relationships. We should, however, always strive to explain, rather than silently act out, our rage. If you like our films, take a ...
  • The Mind Body Problem
    The Mind Body Problem The Mind-Body problem is one of the greatest conundrums of philosophy and of our everyday lives too. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship ...
  • Why, how & when to Flirt
    Why, how & when to Flirt Flirting is an art that deserves to be far more widely known and far more often practiced. Here is a short guide. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ...
  • The Purpose of Friendship
    The Purpose of Friendship Our desire to build good and lasting friendships is often undermined by a lack of focus on what friendship should really be about. Getting clear about what ...
  • How to Travel in your Mind
    How to Travel in your Mind There is a huge emphasis on having new experiences; but very little emphasis on revisiting them in memory. We would be wiser (and happier) if we learnt to ...
  • Why Love requires Generosity
    Why Love requires Generosity We're used to thinking about love as a kind of admiration for perfection. But there's another side to what love should mean: tolerance for, and imagination about, ...
  • How We Lie to Ourselves
    How We Lie to Ourselves We are masters at knowing how to lie to ourselves. We pay a heavy price for this self-deception. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): ...
  • Why You Can Change The World
    Why You Can Change The World Though it looks like the world is set in its ways, it is in fact eminently open to change by those who dare to swim into the stream of history. If you like our films, take ...
  • How not to be Angry all the Time
    How not to be Angry all the Time At the root of some of our angriest moods lies a surprising emotion: optimism. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): ...
  • How to Get Over Someone
    How to Get Over Someone Getting over someone begins with the need to realise that there are curious pleasures available from NOT getting over them… If you like our films, take a look at ...