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  • How To Choose A Partner Wisely
    How To Choose A Partner Wisely We're given very little guidance on how to choose our partners and tend to leave it to that mysterious force we know as 'instinct'. However, it truly pays to be a ...
  • Why Is Work so Boring?
    Why Is Work so Boring? Many of us find our work rather boring and when we do, we tend to blame ourselves. But there are very large-scale reasons, rooted in history and economics, ...
  • How to Enrich a Country: Free Trade or Protectionism?
    How to Enrich a Country: Free Trade or Protectionism? What is the best way to make a country rich? Should you adopt a policy of free trade? Or is protectionism and economic nationalism the better way? We explore ...
  • How to be a Friend to Yourself
    How to be a Friend to Yourself The person we may find it hardest to be kind and sympathetic to is, surprisingly, ourselves. Yet being a friend to ourselves provides the only viable basis for living ...
  • How to Overcome Shyness
    How to Overcome Shyness The secret to overcoming shyness is to remember that others are, beneath the differences, always substantially the same as we are. If you like our films, take a ...
  • How the Right Words Help Us to Feel the Right Things
    How the Right Words Help Us to Feel the Right Things Our feelings are often waiting for the right words to help us to experience them properly. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): ...
  • The Nightmare of Colleagues
    The Nightmare of Colleagues Some of what makes our working lives especially difficult are those unavoidable features of most offices: colleagues… If you like our films, take a look at our ...
  • What It's Like Inside Our Minds
    What It's Like Inside Our Minds It's remarkably hard to imagine what it might be like inside our minds. But doing so helps us to see that the real task of thinking should involve throwing a ...
  • Be the Change You Want to See
    Be the Change You Want to See We so often complain that others around us aren't changing in this way or that. But one of the best ways of encouraging them to change is to change ourselves, ...
  • Why We Think About Other People During Sex
    Why We Think About Other People During Sex The idea of thinking of someone else during sex could seem the height of disloyalty. It is – in fact – simply the height of normality. If you like our films, take a look ...
  • What our Wedding Vows should Say
    What our Wedding Vows should Say Some of the trouble of long-term relationships comes from the vows we say at the beginning. We should learn to reformulate what we say when we enter ...
  • Why it Probably Wasn’t Better Being Single
    Why it Probably Wasn’t Better Being Single We have a very unhelpful tendency – when in relationships – to idealise what it was like being single. We should learn how to bear proper witness to our single ...
  • In Defence Of 'Needy' People
    In Defence Of 'Needy' People We're used to being very down on so-called 'needy' people. But perhaps – in many situations – the problem doesn't lie so much with the apparently 'needy' ...
  • The Poignancy of Old Pornography
    The Poignancy of Old Pornography There's something especially poignant about pornography in which all the participants are long dead. We explore the history of 19th century pornography for its ...
  • Why Love Is Never As Nice As It Should Be
    Why Love Is Never As Nice As It Should Be Our relationships are often not quite as warm and perfect as they should be. That's perhaps because we're comparing them with a relationship in the past to ...
  • Can Lying ever be Kind?
    Can Lying ever be Kind? Paradoxically, but also rather troublingly, there are certain lies that preserve the underlying truth about our feelings somewhat more effectively than the literal ...
  • Why You Still Have Time To Change Career
    Why You Still Have Time To Change Career We often feel as if we might have run out of time to change career. That's because we usually have a wrong understanding of time. If you like our films, take a ...
  • The Darkest Valentine
    The Darkest Valentine Love has many very dark sides. It is best to whisper them very quietly to ourselves – and those who are ready to listen. You can download this Valentines card ...
  • Machiavelli’s Advice For Nice Guys
    Machiavelli’s Advice For Nice Guys Nice guys too often finish last; they need to read the advice of one of the wisest and most realistic thinkers in the history of philosophy: Niccolo Machiavelli.
  • How To Be Confident
    How To Be Confident The fastest route to confidence is to stop being so attached to one's dignity and seriousness; and plainly admit that one is – of course – an idiot. We all are.
  • Why Humanity Destroyed Itself
    Why Humanity Destroyed Itself The real reason we may destroy ourselves isn't really to do with politics or economics or even warfare. It has to do with our minds. If you like our films, take a look ...
  • Why Germans Can Say Things No One Else Can
    Why Germans Can Say Things No One Else Can German is a wonderfully inventive and bold language, full of gloriously long compound words for emotions and ideas that most languages struggle to allow us to ...
  • How Not to be Boring
    How Not to be Boring No one is ever boring: we just seem boring when we haven't learnt the surprisingly easy art of being honest about our vulnerabilities. If you like our films, take a ...
  • Thoreau and Civil Disobedience
    Thoreau and Civil Disobedience Henry David Thoreau not only wrote Walden; he is also responsible for a small pamphlet titled Civil Disobedience, which recommends that – when a US ...
  • Are we too Materialistic?
    Are we too Materialistic? The worry that we are too materialistic is an inevitable one in modern consumer society. The answer, surprisingly, is that there are better and worse versions of ...
  • The Problem with Over-Friendly People
    The Problem with Over-Friendly People Friendliness is a great virtue. Over-friendliness can be an unexpected problem. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): ...
  • How to cope with impotence
    How to cope with impotence The cause of certain kinds of impotence lies in a curious and poignant area: with excessive respect. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship ...
  • Love and Sulking
    Love and Sulking It's deeply tempting to get into sulks in relationships. We should, however, always strive to explain, rather than silently act out, our rage. If you like our films, take a ...
  • The Mind Body Problem
    The Mind Body Problem The Mind-Body problem is one of the greatest conundrums of philosophy and of our everyday lives too. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship ...
  • Why, how & when to Flirt
    Why, how & when to Flirt Flirting is an art that deserves to be far more widely known and far more often practiced. Here is a short guide. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ...
  • The Purpose of Friendship
    The Purpose of Friendship Our desire to build good and lasting friendships is often undermined by a lack of focus on what friendship should really be about. Getting clear about what ...
  • Why Love requires Generosity
    Why Love requires Generosity We're used to thinking about love as a kind of admiration for perfection. But there's another side to what love should mean: tolerance for, and imagination about, ...
  • How We Lie to Ourselves
    How We Lie to Ourselves We are masters at knowing how to lie to ourselves. We pay a heavy price for this self-deception. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): ...
  • Why You Can Change The World
    Why You Can Change The World Though it looks like the world is set in its ways, it is in fact eminently open to change by those who dare to swim into the stream of history. If you like our films, take ...
  • How not to be Angry all the Time
    How not to be Angry all the Time At the root of some of our angriest moods lies a surprising emotion: optimism. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): ...
  • How to Get Over Someone
    How to Get Over Someone Getting over someone begins with the need to realise that there are curious pleasures available from NOT getting over them… If you like our films, take a look at ...
  • Why We Could Love Anyone
    Why We Could Love Anyone The modern world associates love with finding one very special person in whom to pour all one's affection. But what if a deeper understanding of love amounted ...
  • How to be Warm
    How to be Warm Being polite isn't enough to win one friends. We also need to learn the art of being warm: this begins with having the right sort of relationship to our own ...
  • Why We Go Cold On Our Partners
    Why We Go Cold On Our Partners Going cold on our partners is often a sign not that we have stopped caring, but that we are - somewhere deep down - furious or hurt. If you like our films, take a ...
  • What America Is Getting For Christmas
    What America Is Getting For Christmas Lego announces an exciting new Lego range: The Trumps! If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): https://goo.gl/STniqg Join our ...
  • Should We Laugh Or Should We Cry?
    Should We Laugh Or Should We Cry? Given how difficult the world can often be, should we cry – or might we still laugh? If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): ...
  • Why Our Partners Drive Us Mad
    Why Our Partners Drive Us Mad We don't end up with maddening partners by mistake. We're driven towards them by quirks of our psychology we should learn to understand better. If you like ...
  • The Importance Of Affectionate Teasing
    The Importance Of Affectionate Teasing Knowing how to tease and be teased affectionately is a secret to knowing how to get on well with others. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship ...
  • Why Small Pleasures Are a Big Deal
    Why Small Pleasures Are a Big Deal Knowing how to derive satisfaction from small pleasures is key to a good life. Here is a short guide. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship ...
  • What Do Cynical People Really Want?
    What Do Cynical People Really Want? What lies behind the pessimism and witty bitterness of the cynic? As always: a lot of pain… If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): ...
  • Why We Don't Really Want to be Nice
    Why We Don't Really Want to be Nice Being 'nice' sounds a bit eerie and strange. It shouldn't really. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): https://goo.gl/paVKhY Join our ...
  • Why Socrates Hated Democracy
    Why Socrates Hated Democracy We're used to thinking hugely well of democracy. But interestingly, one of the wisest people who ever lived, Socrates, had deep suspicions of it. If you like our ...
  • LITERATURE - George Orwell
    LITERATURE - George Orwell George Orwell is the most famous English language writer of the 20th century, the author of Animal Farm and 1984. What was he trying to tell us and what is his ...
  • How To Cope With Snobbery
    How To Cope With Snobbery The existence of snobbery explains why we work so hard and are so worried about our reputations. We are all terrified of humiliation and disrespect. If you like ...
  • Why Polyamory (sadly) can't be for Everyone
    Why Polyamory (sadly) can't be for Everyone Polyamory is an incredibly positive and fulfilling way of life for increasing numbers of people all over the world. At The School of Life, we applaud and celebrate ...